By Samuel O. Doku (Washington, DC). Although trust is the most important ingredient in the menu of any relationship, many take it for granted, so in Deaconess Sandrine Tankeu’s teaching on the prayer line on Friday morning, she emphasized that for any relationship to thrive and succeed, its foundation must be erected on trust.
In fact, Deaconess Sandrine is not the only one at Amazing Love Church Ministry Int’l to touch on the importance of trust in relationships. Lady Evangelist (Mrs) Mildred Ntemi, Senior Pastor Georges Ntemi, and Pastor Jean Paul Ntap have all at one point or another, touched on trust in preaching or during Bible Study.
From that perspective, Deaconess Sandrine added her voice and knowledge to the voices before her to ensure the need for Christians to do things not to jeopardize or erode the trust others might have in them.
She read Paul’s letter to the Corinthians that emphasizes the trust between the apostles and the church in Corinth. Paul tells them in 2 Corinthians 1 : 7, ‘’And our hope for you is firm, because we know that just as you share in our sufferings, so also you share in our comfort.’’ In other words, Paul told the Christians in Corinth that their trust for one another was unshakable, supporting one another in joy or sorrow, defeat or success.
It is that kind of unfettered trust Deaconess Sandrine based her teaching on. She narrated the mollifying experience of Joseph, who when he was told of his fiancee’s pregnancy, even before an angel came and revealed to him that Mary’s pregnancy was from immaculate conception, Joseph didn’t complain frenetically. He supported Mary every step of the way. It is this wonderful trust Deaconess Sandrine wants the children of God to re-live.
The problem of trust or is it distrust among us human beings has been with humanity since Adam and Eve. For that reason, Deaconess Sandrine cited Psalm 118 : 8 where David proclaims, ‘’It is better to take refuge in the Lord than to trust in humans, and his son Solomon writes in Proverbs 26: 24-26, ‘’Enemies disguise themselves with their lips, but in their hearts, they harbor deceit. Though their speech is charming, do not believe them, for seven abominations fill their hearts.’’
To this end, Dr. Tankeu stated that a fundamental requirement for trust to flourish is speaking the truth. “We trust God because his word is the truth. Trust among us must be a commitment. It can take years to build trust in a relationship, but it can take only seconds to destroy it.”
As it says in Proverbs 3: 5-6, “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding. In all your ways, submit to Him, and He will make your path straight,” Deaconess Sandrine read.
Like his father before him, Solomon is telling us here that because sometimes our tendencies are clouded by doubt, trusting in the Lord first should be paramount.
In the words of Deaconess Sandrine, “Where there is love and truth, trust prevails.”
She reiterated three things that can erode trust among individuals: 1) Wrong purpose 2) Going beyond one’s faith to become self-centered, and 3) Empty confession that is not meant because it doesn’t come from the heart.
She noted that marriage without trust has a weak foundation because it leads to children not having trust in one another and friendship not predicated on trust.
“Trust in God should reflect trust in one another. Act wisely. Trust leads to confidence in one another. Where there is trust, there is happiness, joy, hope, and belief in relationships. Great is trust that is worthy,” asserted Deaconess Sandrine.
Pastor Jean Paul Ntap added that trust works best with truth. “We must walk in truth for our trust for one another to endure. These days, social media is taking the trust employers have for employees. But what do we expect when you go to work, twitter, facebook, snapshot, among others, get your attention more than your work,” said Pastor Jean Paul.
He noted that it’s important for us to work on our relationships and allow trust to be the foundation. “The tongue has the power to destroy, so don’t be saying evil things about life in general.”
Senior Pastor Georges Ntemi also chipped in to emphasize the salience of appropriating truth in all things to build one’s trust. You can change your destiny by being truthful because the Lord is truth. The spirit of the Lord is the spirit of truth, and relationships depend on trust, and trust depends on truth, so where there’s no trust, there is no relationship,” noted the blessed man of God.