How the Curse and the Pain Became a Blessing and Abundant Joy for Women

By Samuel O. Doku (Washington, DC). The theme for the on-going celebration of women at Amazing Love Church Ministry Int’l is “Doing It all for the Glory of God.” The Virtuous Women of Amazing Love Church are establishing themselves as trailblazers for their children, husbands, and friends with their proclamation that although they are women, most of whom have given birth, they are also starkly aware that they are agents of change in their homes and communities.

In Elder Mary Ribama’s teaching on the prayer line yesterday (Tuesday), she redefined woman as not merely a companion of her husband and therefore limited in her abilities to realize her God-given talents but as one of noble character with the rights and privileges of enjoying sex, capable of loving fiercely, willingly procreating, playing the role of motherhood brilliantly, and engendering change in society in profound ways.

Sister Ribama’s definition of woman in masculine discourse does not necessarily mean a shift in gender roles; it means equality. What a man can do, a woman can also do and sometimes, even better.

She noted, “When a woman gives birth to a child, she has given birth to an individual, but when she gives birth to a girl, she has given birth to a nation. A woman can multitask; a woman is a builder, doing a lot of things for the good of her family, her community, and society. But, a woman without a heart for God can also be a destroyer. One virtuous woman can change a whole nation. God wants women to continue in faith and love.”

The allusion to God wanting women to continue in faith and love can be traced back to Genesis where after God had created Adam from clay, he took a couple of the man’s ribs and formed [wo]man from the ribs and named her Eve. But, after Eve fell prey to the devil’s wily machinations and convinced her to eat of the forbidden fruit from the Tree of Knowledge, Eve in turn gave it to Adam to eat. The punishment God exacted on her was for Eve to endure pain during childbirth.

However, the shedding of Christ’s blood to atone for the sins of humankind also meant a new beginning for the woman. To that end, Apostle Paul theorized in the New Testament that child bearing would be emblematic of God’s profound blessings on any woman that gives birth.

Elder Ribama stated: “As virtuous women, we should have the character and knowledge to build up our children to become disciplined and responsible human beings; let our quality of life shine to glorify God for we are beautiful not only on the outside but also from the inside. Let our husbands have the confidence to appreciate the fact that although we are women, we are winners. In all of these, we must always pray for strength from the Lord because He is our Maker and Redeemer.”

In her response, the blessed woman of God, Mrs. Mildred Ntemi espoused Elder Ribama’s message as a powerful teaching on motherhood and added, “A woman of virtue must have a good character, a noble character worthy of praise.”

She reminded participants about the story of Ruth, whose flawless character compelled Boaz to praise her virtuosity and exemplary demeanor as a result of which she became a forbearer, from whose lineage Christ descended. “The story of Ruth is famous today not because she was an evangelist but because of her good character. Because she was noble, Boaz noticed her as soon as he saw her. Your character defines your ministry. What we bind here on earth will be bound in Heaven, and what we loose here on earth will be loosened in Heaven,” noted the first lady.

She added, “The virtuous woman didn’t evangelize. Who she was made her to be talked about. Some of us are inclined to show compassion only to our relatives. Expand your ministry beyond your family. Show love to those who don’t love you; be merciful to those who might be against you. Learn from the example of Christ.”

Sister Mildred observed that Christ was beaten, scourged, denied, betrayed, and mistreated, yet in all that, He died for our sins which is the ultimate perfection of love. “Everything you do should reflect the life of Christ. This applies to everybody, especially women who are the builders. Do it all for the glory of God because He is omnipresent; He sees, knows, and hears everything. Through Ruth came Christ because of her character,” noted the first lady.

She then asked rhetorically, “What will your legacy be when you are no longer here? Were you a good or a bad person? Were you rude to people? Bad things linger in people’s minds longer than good things. If the answers you provided to these questions are positive, then you are ready to enter into the Kingdom of God,” concluded the blessed woman of God.

Pastor Jean Paul Ntap added that good character is an important element in life and by virtue of women as builders, they can save or mar lives. “Whatever you do, remember that your testimony can save others,” stated the blessed man of God.


About Dr. Sam Doku
Dr. Samuel O. Doku is a professor and a writer. He earned his Ph.D. in English with concentration in African American Literature from Howard University. He is a W.E.B. Du Bois scholar whose book is titled Cosmopolitanism in the Fictive Imagination of W.E.B. Du Bois: Toward the Realization of a Revolutionary Art. His articles have been published on Google Scholar, in the International Journal of English Language, Literature and Humanities, and College English Association Magazine (CEAMAG).