By Samuel O. Doku (Washington, DC). The first lady of Amazing Love Church Ministry Int’l, Mrs. Mildred Ntemi has called for a better world in which there would be more joy and happiness in the home if men would love their wives with all their hearts and wives would willingly treat their husbands as heads of the household and would respect them as well as be submissive and humble to them.
Indeed, the president of the Women’s Ministry emphasized love, compassion, selflessness, respect, and humility the whole of last week in her role as responder to the various teachings on the prayer line, and she rounded out the Women’s Week celebrations on Sunday with a Homily full of wisdom and pragmatism, focusing on the same themes.
With her mom and step father among the congregation, Mrs. Ntemi cited Col. 3: 18-25 to inform her reading. “Wives, submit yourselves unto your husbands, as it is fit in the Lord. Husbands love your wives and be not bitter against them. Children, obey your parents in all things for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.
“Servants, obey in all things your masters according to the flesh. Not as with eye-service as men pleasers but in singleness of heart, fearing God. And whatsoever ye do, do it heartily, as to the Lord and not unto men; knowing that of the Lord, ye shall receive the reward of the inheritance; for ye serve the Lord Christ. But he that doeth wrong shall receive for the wrong that he hath done, and there is no respecter of persons.”
After reading the venerable verses, Mrs. Ntemi noted: “I am here to honor mothers but it includes the whole family because a mother is not a mother without the whole family. Therefore, this message is for everybody. Many a time, when we do something and expect something in return, if we don’t get it, we become disappointed. But whatever you are called to do, do it as if you are doing it unto the Lord.”
From the New Testament, she took the congregation back to the Old Testament, to Genesis and Eve. The blessed woman of God surmised that after God had created the woman, Adam named her Eve, meaning mother of the living. “A mother gives birth; she gives life. Eve is the mother to all the living, so a mother is a mother to not only her own children but also, she is the mother to all, including her own father because men are big babies.”
She recalled her childhood days and revealed the special bond of love her mother shared with them. “I got my selfless spirit from my mother. When we were young, my mother shared a great bond of love with us. My mother wouldn’t eat if we had not eaten. She always placed others before her. My mother never prayed for herself; she was always praying for others. That is the quality of a great mother,” said the first lady who is popularly referred to as the Lady Evangelist.
She then posed a few rhetorical questions: “What makes a great mother? What makes her a stand out? What makes a great mother different? Responding to her own questions, she stated in anaphora, “A great mother does it all unto the Lord; a great mother comes from the heart; a great mother is also a great role model.”
She read Proverbs 31: 10-31 in which Lemuel’s mother outlines the virtues and attributes of the virtuous woman. The first lady then asserted: “These verses tell us about the nobility and virtues of a great woman. A virtuous woman does not necessarily go out to preach the gospel. A virtuous woman must have an exemplary character that makes her a standout among other women.
“A virtuous woman must not be the devil in a sheep’s clothing. Your character is very important; you have been called for that purpose. Don’t be an eye-servant. Have an encounter with the Lord. Don’t indulge in favoritism because God looks at your heart, so don’t be an eye-servant. If you are, sooner or later, the Lord will catch you because the devil uses eye-servants a lot,” admonished the blessed woman of God.
Using herself as an example of an eye-servant who wanted to please her husband, Pastor Georges, by speeding, she was once caught going 100 miles on the highway where the speed limit was 55 miles. Since her husband taught her how to drive and became good at it, speeding was her hobby.
“I must say I am an example of the eye-servant who sooner or later was caught. Before I start driving, I say a short prayer and leave it all in the hands of God. One day I went and dropped off my husband at the Airport and I was returning home.
“As always, I was speeding, doing over 100 miles an hour in a 55-mile zone. The Virginia police caught me and gave me a hefty fine to pay equivalent to my two-months salary, even after taking two years to contest the ticket. Bad acts will always catch up with you sooner or later, so avoid them. God knows your heart so please Him instead of man,” noted the first lady.
She advised the virtuous women to lead by example, by allowing their lives to be a reflection of Christ’s life. “Teaching is not by speaking; it is by doing. My mother is less of a talker; she just does it. Today, when people see me, they compliment her. I feel proud to introduce myself as my mother’s daughter. Let others see the Christianity in you with your compassion and kind heart,” stated the president of the Women’s Ministry who also holds a Master’s in Law degree from George Mason University.
Again, she revealed that when she was an adolescent, her nick name was Margaret Thatcher because of her strong, uncompromising, and unyielding personality. But, not anymore.
She read Gal. 6: 9-10 and said, “Do good, no matter what. Do it because it’s your God-given duty. Do it not because you want to please man, but you want to please God. Do it because you have it in your heart to help and not because you want to be compensated. Christ came to take away our sadness and give us joy; he took away our sickness and give us health, and he took away our sins for our salvation. Don’t grow weary in doing good.”
She chipped in the story of the talents, where the master on his return from his journey gave each servant according to his diligence and fortitude. “My mother is a very hard working woman. Work is a blessing. When God said ‘Go ye and be fruitful and multiply,’ He meant we must have children and also work. Learn to put your talents to work,” noted Mrs. Ntemi.
She reiterated Prov. 31: 11 and said, “Because of the noble woman, her husband became who he is. Support your husbands with ideas on investment and other pieces of advice to elevate him. Above all, live within your means and don’t copy others, especially their outward appearance. A virtuous woman is strong, so never say, ‘I can’t.”
Still, she also observed that whatever. the women would do, they should use their tongues to bless and encourage and not to destroy.
In her brilliant sermon, the president of the Women’s Ministry of Amazing Love Church Ministry also wrapped her delivery in controversy, a delivery many will claim is at variance with what it means to be a feminist. She boldly affirmed and put women in their traditional robes as wives who must bend to the authority of their husbands because they come first before their wives.
“Often, I hear some preachers preach equality in the home. They say marriage is between two equals. Never. The woman can’t be greater than the man. The man is the master; the place of the wife is to take care of the home, cook, clean, look after the children, warm the house, and help bring increase. When the woman challenges, then there is a problem. This applies to all wives because even if they are presidents or prime ministers, before they attained those high positions, they were wives,” stated audacious Mrs. Ntemi.
She added: “Naturally, in doing all these, sometimes you get tired because the task is heavy, but don’t grow weary, for God will increase your strength and glorify you in a manner you deserve. Know your place as a wife because social status is irrelevant. You are a wife; you must and respect your husband.”
Speaking truth to power from the podium of transfiguration, the first lady told the women to be like Sarah who called Abraham “My Lord.” “Practice submission and honor and always be the first to apologize, even if the fault is not wholly yours, for apologizing is not a weakness; it helps you operate from the position of strength.
“Remember one of the eight Beatitudes in which Christ said, ‘Blessed are the peacemakers, for they shall be called the children of God.’ We should be the embodiment of love, joy, peace, patience, goodness, and kindness to all because we give life and think of others first. God’s favor is eternal so build your treasures in Heaven. ended Mrs. Mildred Ntemi to a standing ovation.